From http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/ --
Designated Control Freak
One of the issues that often arise in poly situations — especially in group living is who decides what gets done.
Sure, sure, a consensus model works. But have you ever gotten more than two people to happily agree on more than 50% of decisions? (The “happily” part is important in the long run. Just going along without being happy means that you’re gonna have some resentment along the line).
When the consensus model won’t work, there’s another option: The Designated Control Freak.
I found out about the whole concept of the DCF from a good friend of mine, and thought it was funny and cute and a nifty way to solve decision issues. I told my roommate about it, who also thought it was cute, so we jokingly implemented it.
It was at least six months before we internalized the awesome power of the system.
( The System )